Having just sat sandpapering my legs with the totally essential grooming kit I got enticed into buying today, I've been reflecting on the day I've had.
A friend and I roadtripped up the A3 to the Baby and Toddler Show at Sandown Park.
Before I begin, I've had a GREAT DAY. Not just a good one, but one of those rare legendary days full of happiness, sunshine and laughter whilst geeking out on the latest baby innovations.
As mothers of two each (and her with another on the way) we'd like to think we are now experts in what we deem "essential" for a new baby. Both very different lists when you compare them I'm sure. But there's something about these clever events, their shiny marketing, sparkly sales people and beautiful displays that make you think you need ALL THE THINGS. I'm not even having a baby and I found myself marvelling over clever cushions and blankets, wondering whether I needed new night lights, and excited by the idea of a self sterilising bottle. There were things we could both agree were totally ridiculous and consumerist, but it's very easy to get sucked in as an experienced parents- I feel for the brand new parents-to-be who wouldn't have left with any boot space or much change from a grand.
But do you know what I think *should* be an essential?
A positive birth experience.
Never mind what you are going to dress them in, push them in, wrap them in, wash them in, put them to sleep in- how they enter the world is bloody important. How you FEEL about their entry into the world is important.
Not one stall for birth preparation. No books. No hypnobirthing. No information about staying chilled out for the most important day of your baby's life.
It might not be shiny or sparkly, have different speed settings, come in multiple colourways or be self sterilising, but I think it should be considered essential.
When your baby is a toddler, teenager, adult, will you remember which buggy you pushed them in, which brand of baby food you fed them, which blanket you wrapped them in? Maybe.
Will you remember their birth? Always.