Full transparency, I was genuinely interested because I'm hoping to add a retail element to my business soon. I was gearing up for all the answers i was hoping to hear- slings, cloth nappies, washable breast pads, cute outfits, teething necklaces etc etc.
Do you know what the overwhelming answer was?
I've been inspired to write this list, these are my 5 best gifts you can give your new mummy friend.
1. TIME to bond with their baby.
Help out with all those boring tedious household chores. Run the hoover around. Do the washing up. Hire them a cleaner for the first month if you really want to push the boat out. Anything you can do that means she can snuggle up on the sofa or in bed with her precious new bundle so they can get to know each other.
2. TIME to talk about their birth.
Having a safe space to openly discuss her birth with you. Her highs and lows, her experience, how she feels about this amazingly life changing event she's just been through. Make a cuppa each, take a pack of biscuits and simply listen.
3. TIME to focus on any older children.
If this is baby number 2 (or 3, 4 or more!), I guarantee you it will have crossed her mind more than once that having this baby has seriously damaged her relationship with any other children. Now I'm not saying offer to have the new human for hours on end, but a cuddle or offer to watch the sleeping baby so she can do a puzzle, push a swing, read a story. Meet them at a park or soft play and sit with the little one so she can have some much needed big kid time.
4. TIME to eat a hot meal or enjoy a cup of coffee.
So this one probably involves either cooking some meals or helping stock the freezer with easy nutritious ready meals. Help her look after herself and stay well- putting something in the oven, then serving it on a plate can be done one handed if needs be, cooking from scratch? Less so. Be mindful that lots of meals will probably need to be eaten one handed too...
Make her that coffee. Offer to cuddle baby so she can drink it hot. Consider buying her a thermos mug- safer to drink with a baby, and will stay hot longer. Winner.
5. TIME to feel normal.
A 15 minute hot bath on your own has never felt so appealing as when it suddenly feels unobtainable. Likewise a shower to wash your hair.
A pampering treat to look forward to when she's ready to leave the baby.
An offer to baby sit so she can have some time with her partner.
So often, we get lost in the fog of new parenthood, we forget that we also need nourishing too. Its a cliche, but you can't poor from an empty cup.